7 Parenting Tips to Deal With a Naughty Child

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seven tips from experienced parents on
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how to deal with a naughty child oops
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didn’t somebody say pepper spray no hmm
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I didn’t think so it goes without saying
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that you need to find a unique approach
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to raising any child but there are some
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golden rules that will help you deal
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with even the most disobedient ones in
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their work game theory for parents
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writers and experienced fathers Paul
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Rayburn and Kevin Zollman explain how
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you can get your kids to behave better
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and to do what they’re told in all kinds
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of situations no shouting no threatening
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no drama at all yeah let’s see what
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their secret is when they refuse to walk
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with their parents now every parent has
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probably faced the situation when their
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child stopped in the middle of the
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street refused to hold their hand and
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basically just wouldn’t budge to
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convince a child to keep walking try
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switching roles with them if you need to
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cross the road for example act like
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you’re afraid to do it on your own let
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the child play the role of the parent
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and you’ll see that they’ll immediately
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get into the game and do what you want
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them to do there’s another way out give
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your kid a choice either they hold your
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hand or go in the stroller in most cases
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your kid will readily take your hand
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when they won’t accept punishment for
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bad behavior so what should you do if
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your child has misbehaved but isn’t
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ready to face the music simply talk to
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them like you would if you were talking
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to an adult calmly explain why they’re
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guilty and why they’re going to be
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punished you can make a business
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proposal like suggesting that they
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should either pay a fine from their
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piggy bank or do the dishes for the next
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week let them have the right to choose
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even when they make mistakes
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now please keep in mind that emotional
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abuse is never the right way out so
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instead of making your child stand in
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the corner for a long time open up a
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dialogue and figure out together how
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their mistake can be fixed when they
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refuse to eat their meal but demand junk
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food
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if a child refuses to eat lunch but
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wants their favorite sugary stuff
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instead offer them dessert as a prize
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for cleaning up their plate this tip
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works extremely well if your kid is
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competitive in this case they’ll put all
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their effort into eating their meal as
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fast as possible to enjoy the sweet
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prize after work don’t get frustrated
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simply try to find compromises children
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are more likely to cooperate if you
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offer them a good deal it sounds like
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most adults I know when they won’t eat
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their breakfast if this is a case try to
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set an example when parents are too busy
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in the morning and the child has to have
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breakfast by themselves it’s no wonder
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they might leave most of the food on
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their plate if your kid refuses to have
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breakfast keep them company to make it
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more fun suggest they count how many
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spoonfuls of cereal are left you can be
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sure that doing this they won’t even
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notice that they’ve eaten the whole bowl
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now there are several other options that
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can make your little one eager to enjoy
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their morning meal for instance try
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breakfast on a stick you just need a few
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wooden skewers and pieces of waffle
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different fruit chunks and berries kids
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have fun stabbing their food with sticks
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and this turns any old boring fork and
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knife breakfast into a cool game plus
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they’ll gobble up this healthy food
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lickety-split for added fun offer them a
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bowl of yogurt to dip their breakfast
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kabobs in you can also make it a bedtime
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tradition to ask your kid what they want
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for breakfast the next day this way
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there won’t be any unpleasant surprises
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or unnecessary fighting in the morning
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when they refuse to get dressed mornings
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are hectic for parents especially if
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their kids are school-aged you got to
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get them up and dressed have breakfast
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and school lunch is ready and all of
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this before the bus arrives it’s got to
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be fast and efficient but a child that
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refuses to get out of bed puts a huge
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kink in the morning machine most kids
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simply don’t understand how urgent this
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routine is they might choose to play
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with their toys instead of putting on
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clothes but shouting and threatening
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only wastes your precious time and get
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you nowhere it’s easier to avoid the
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drama and turn it into fun seeing a
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pattern here yet if the kids refuse to
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get dressed try a challenging game tell
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them you want to see if they can put
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their clothes on blindfolded children
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love to play so it’s likely that this
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way the process will go much faster with
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no hiccups and who knows maybe the next
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morning they’ll ask you to cover their
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eyes while they’re getting dressed again
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you can also play the matching game you
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choose a color and the children need to
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find clothes that match when they don’t
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want to stop playing in order to get
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ready for bed it must be hard for kids
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to switch from a fun activity to a much
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less entertaining one that’s why the
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moment you ask them to put away their
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toys or games and go take a bath or come
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to the dinner table well more often than
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not a tantrum ensues in this case you
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can play follow-the-leader
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you be the leader and your little one
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must follow but you have to make it fun
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walk in a weird way make sudden jumps
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and hops that your child must repeat if
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the kid decides to lead let them do it
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in this case they won’t even notice the
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transition from playtime to some routine
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activity
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when they’re misbehaving in the car long
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hours on the road are ten times more
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boring for kids than they are for adults
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so it’s no wonder they start nagging and
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fighting with their siblings boy I
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remember such car trips where my two
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little boys would be debating idiot
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big fat peg idiot big fat pig well
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before you lose your cool and just add
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to the drama try playing the fake dreams
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game with them tell everybody in the car
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except for the driver of course to close
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their eyes and make up a dream that they
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see after the stories are ready
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everybody takes turns sharing their
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story if you’re lucky enough one or all
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of the kids drift into real dreamland
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you can find tons of other fun car games
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on the Internet
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they’ll definitely entertain your kids
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on a road trip while giving you some
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peace of mind as well so those were just
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some examples of how to bring children
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up using compromises and games instead
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of shouting and threatening all in all
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here are the main guidelines to follow
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if you want to avoid conflicts with the
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kids play nice even the smallest
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children understand what Fair Play is
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that’s why you can address the issue of
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fairness when you want to encourage
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children to behave well however it goes
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without saying that if you decide to use
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this method you need to play fair
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yourself teach your children to
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cooperate in a 2008 study a group of
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four-year-olds 10 boys and 10 girls were
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each given a doll and something that
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this doll could give away like a plastic
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fruit a piece of candy a toy and so on
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the dolls which represented the kids
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themselves had to share the things they
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had with other dolls that were
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introduced to the children as family
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members friends or just strangers it
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turned out that even at such a young age
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kids knew the rules of cooperation they
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gave more presents to family members
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than to
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friends and next to nothing to strangers
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you simply need to explain to your kids
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why it would be better for them to play
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along and they’ll understand this when
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the situation makes sense for children
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they’re ready to cooperate so do you use
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any creative methods to dealing with
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your children’s bad behavior I’ve used
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duct tape several times seems to work if
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you don’t have kids which tips would you
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use if you did tell us in the comments
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