Parenting Tips – How to Discipline Children | Parents

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I’m Dr. Ari Brown and I’ve got some great discipline tips to share with you today.
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Many methods work and different ones work for different situations.
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The key is to be consistent, follow through once you’ve set up those rules and limits,
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show respect and remain calm.
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Remember, you are your child’s role model and he’s watching you to see how you react
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when you’re angry or frustrated.
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So, here are the four tips.
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Tip number one: Teach natural consequences.
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It is much more meaningful for a child to see what happens when he makes the bad choice
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in a safe way, of course, than to choose a punishment that has absolutely nothing to
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do with the poor behavior.
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So, for instance, if your toddler throws her spaghetti at the wall, she is telling you
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she is done eating and should be excused from the table.
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Next time, she’ll remember to eat dinner and not play with her food.
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Tip number two: Ignore certain attention-seeking behaviors.
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I know it can be hard to disengage but if it isn’t a serious offense, just ignore it.
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Kids will do many things in the name of getting your attention.
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If your child doesn’t get a rise out of you, she will probably stop doing it.
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So here’s an example.
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Your child loves to interrupt you when you talk on the phone.
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The solution?
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Ignore it, or else you have taught her that that tactic works and she will continue to
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do it again and again.
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Even better, prepare for attention-seeking behavior and prevent it.
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Set your kitchen timer and tell her you’ll be able to talk to her once the timer goes
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off.
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Tip number three: Give choices.
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Kids want to be in charge.
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A child is more likely to cooperate if he feels like he is involved in a decision-making
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process.
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Just make sure those options you give are all things that you want to do anyway and
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be careful not to give too many options because that can be overwhelming.
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So, when you’re trying to get out the door in the morning, say, which do you want to
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do first?
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Do you want to put on your shoes or put on your coat?
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Tip number four: Use time-out.
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Yes, it really works if it’s done correctly and consistently.
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The whole point of time out is time away from you.
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Your child can be moved to a safe place or you can move away from your child and that
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can do wonders to keep you calm and in control.
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The whole point is, losing attention from you is the most effective way to get your
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message across.
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Time-out is reserved for more serious offenses that put the child or somebody else in danger.
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So, for instance, if your child takes a bite out of her friend’s arm, she goes directly
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to time-out city.
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Just remember, you won’t see immediate success with any of these techniques.
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Your child will test you 20 times to be sure you really meant what you said or be sure
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he can’t get away with things on your watch.
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Be patient and be consistent and you will see results.